The world is silent all apart from the drumming of the rain’s fingertips at your window. The darkness is punctured by the warm glow of the street lamp as you stand by the window, half disguised by the shadows. Sometimes, being alone has a way of being sobering but, more often than not, it seems to be something we try to escape.
We build busy schedules and plan to have company whenever and wherever we can, as if we are afraid of being alone. It’s not until we are actually alone with ourselves and our thoughts that we might realise the benefits of being alone sometimes, among the dangers. It might be true that beneath our facades and within our minds lie demons that we do not want to confront, demons that appear only when we are alone, but we are best able to drown these demons and cleanse our minds when we give ourselves the time, space and environment to do so. Being alone allows us a pure environment away from distraction and one that we can fully immerse ourselves into. To find ourselves is often a journey of solitude and one that we must stop our fear of being alone thwarting us from succeeding in.
Being alone does not always consist of dwelling in a dark room, although some people may find this a purifying experience, but it could mean venturing into the countryside or embarking on an adventure of some sort. It could be twenty minutes lying with your eyes shut and playing music through your headphones, or it could be a thirty day pilgrimage. Being alone works in different ways for different people but the most important distinction between the type of alone that is desirable and the type of alone that is not is that, to find peace in being alone, you should be alone but not lonely.